We are taught social skills at a young age from parents, teachers, and society. This facilitates our social appropriateness, and helps us live in society together. We are taught not to say exactly what we are thinking, and to edit our thoughts. This provides civility which is helpful for society.

As adults it is useful and sometimes necessary to attune ourselves to the thoughts and feelings that we have learned to bury, ignore, disregard, or fear. This attunement is the first step toward understanding the way our unique minds work. This understanding provides an opportunity to correct distortions and misperceptions we have learned and/or created in our minds about our thoughts and feelings. So often these distortions and misperceptions contribute to emotional and/or physical symptoms that make us uncomfortable with ourselves and others. As a result, the way we lead our lives, the choices we make, and our relationships get affected....Read on